Don’t Judge Me
December 19, 2009 marked my first year anniversary of becoming a single dad. Who would have thought that this was to be my life. As a professional, we can be critical of other people who have children. For example, have you ever been at the mall where you see some poor woman trying to get her child to follow their directions. As the child uses the mall opportunity to perform their rendition of “ Disobedient in A minor.” You know the yelling at the top of their lungs “No I wanna Play” or the Screaming of “Your are Hurting me.” Before I was a parent, I would judgmentally state it that if it had had been my child that temper tantrum would not happen. Yes, it was me who laughed at friends behind their backs who had children on the teddy bear leash, the one that looks like a backpack but it attaches to a parents wrist. In the past 5 years I have learned the joys, laughter, pain, and frustration of being a parent. Parenting is the only job that does not come with a manual. It is the only responsibility that carries a life time contract, and it is guarantees to have a journey of a lifetime. It’s when you become a parent that the idea of the teddy bear leash become an ingenious idea. When you have children, having your 10 year old child sit in the stroller at the mall seems like a logical plan. Regardless, if their feet are touching the floor become a better plan than allowing them to walk throughout the store only to have to go to customer service to have them paged. As an educator by trade, I have been trained to work with students but nothing prepared me to work with my own. This blog is dedicated to sharing how I am learning to parent, work, run a company, and build my life. One concern I can say about parenting is that we do not want peoples sympathy but understanding. If you see me in the mall with my daughter and she is wearing a Princess and the Frog leash, just say hello and don’t laugh. If you do laugh because I am walking around with my child on a leash remember the words of a brilliant philosopher and poet 2pac, “Only God can Judge me, Baby, Baby !”
*Okay I admit she never wore a leash. It was a thought. Lol
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Sowing and Reaping Is a Universal Principle
time to harvest.. by Sir Mervs.
Sowing and reaping is not just a Christian doctrine. It is a global truth that exist. Hinduism and Buddhism call it karma. Christians call it sowing and reaping. The intention is that a sower or a person would apply seeds all over the ground, in return those seeds are to generate a crop. The aim is whatever a person sows that is what they harvest or simply they get what they deserve. This is not on in this life it also effects their life in the thereafter. I decided to initiate a seed of hope, in return for the gaining a crop of hope. I call this the Hope Project. A person means to obtain a blessing has a direct impact into what they sow. The gripping facet to sowing is that whatever seed that a person sows it always becomes multiplied. A sower never plants one seed to get one piece of fruit. The sower expects a multiplication of what seed sowed. For example, my grandfather has a small garden. Every year since I was little he has always planted tomato seeds. When my grandfather plants a tomato seed he does not expect to receive one tomato. If his expectation is only to receive one tomatoes he would be better off going to the store because my grandfather labor would have been in vain. He expects to have several tomatoes all from one seed, my grandfather plants with the expectation of multiplication. The power of sowing and reaping is found in the phenomena of multiplication when one seed can create an entire plant with multiple fruit growing at different rates.
On August 14, 2009, the release of the book, The Hope Project, is so vital to the current economic issues in America. It is pertinent to people who need a little karma in their life. It is also an immense opportunity for those who participate in the experiment. I am taking the lead to sow a seed of hope. I am taking both my time and talent and planting it into a whole world that is full of possibilities. I have high expectations like my grandfather expecting to develop an orchard of blessings. I am also taking that same seed of hope and putting it into the hands of countless sowers. Then, I am asking them to discover that same seed, and plant it into the sphere of possibilities. Is there a catch? The answer is certainly, the catch is the expectation of receiving multiplication. On August 14, 2009 when people begin to disseminate that seed, they need to begin to expect the multiplication of goodness into their life. If a person needs hope in their lives, then that individual needs to spread hope. I needed hope in my life, so I decided to engender hope. I am asking people across the country to take hope and give it out, sow with the expectation of reaping a harvest of karma like never before.
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Hope We Can Believe In
He spent over 20 years on his job, only to have a pink slip handed to him at the end of the day. He always had been on time for work. His annual evaluation had always ranked him as being brilliant employee. That level of duty and dedication to the company could not stop him from losing his career He was an engineer and went to school. He was always taught that a degree from school would always insure that he would have a job. At the age of 44, with the end of the company and a loss of one-hundred thousand in income, he finds himself without a job, career, and finical stability. He needs hope. It almost seems that this is the story of many hard working Americans. People are facing some of the toughest times probably since the 1930’s. Across the country the story seems to be the same, people are struggling. They need help and a since of hope. I think that I have the answer. I think that through a method of giving hope away we will begin to see s seismic shift in their lives, family, community, and country. I call this the Hope Project. In November of 2008, I began toying with this notion of giving hope away. What would happen if people would learn how to give, not just money, but time, and expertise? That individuals across the world started a trend in which we all shared each other’s burden. That we as a human race started giving hope to each other. This Hope Project is an experiment to see if the lives of people can be changed through the process of giving away hope. I have decided to provide both my life and talent first. I have written a book entitled The Hope Project, this book is totally free to any person who downloads the book or reads it electronically (Does Not Include Kindle). This book retails in paperback 15.99. My aim is to see if a person or a company can change if they were able to give Hope away. This provocative book, Hope, I am challenging people to take the book and pass it on – giving Hope away. In this book, I share with him or her a the 10 rules of hope. The goal is straightforward – to reach over a million people with his message of hope. So on August 14,2009 I am asking individuals to connect your faith with me as we reach over a million people with this message of Hope. Lastly, I am also asking people to join my facebook group and my online community. The Empowering Life Movement we are asking for 1 million people to make a commitment to be the change that the world needs.
Facebook Group
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=231959075611&ref=mf
Empowering Life Community
www.empoweringlifemovement.ning.com
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Roots
What you see , Will lead you to what you perceive
How you perceive will form how to you believe
A wise man said you can tell a tree by its fruit
It a tree doesn’t bare any fruit dig it up.
I have not see a lot fruit from people who are trees
Maybe it has to do with their roots.
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Tae-Bo, Lighting, and Prayer (Part I)
It was 2 a.m. I was not getting much sleep. I had to share a bed with my four year old daughter as we were visiting my parents. If you have children you know my situation. It is as if God teaches Tae-bo classes to little kids in their sleep. I was kicked and punched the entire night. As soon as the class ended and she settled into her deep sleep a storm came rolling in. The only thing I could think was I am never going to get any sleep. So at 2 am I was laying in bed meditating and I learned about prayer. I learned that the simplicity of having a conversation with God is one of the most powerful tools in the world.
As I was in the bed watching my little girl just sleep jealous because she was doing something that I wanted to do. She began to showing signs that she feels protected as she nestles her head into my chest with a smile of contentment. She had no worries. I realize that children don’t think about bills needed to be paid, they have limited understanding of the problems that we as adult have. They just rest in arms of the one who was designed to protect them. As I sat looking at her I realized the wonderful relationship that a child has for their parents. At a wonderful age of 34 I still look at my parents with that same look, I may have my own home, job, and business, but sometimes there is nothing like coming home to the people that were designed to protect you. When things get a little difficult going back home and are refreshing. It is kind of like my daughter crawling in my lap and going to sleep. Parents are like god, when you are in there presence nothing really matters other than love. That is why parents should not expose children to adult problems. It robs them from their child like innocents and it distorts their faith and hope.
There I was 2am not being able to sleep then all of sudden at storm came rumbling in. The only thing I could think of was I was never going to get any sleep. As the storm became louder my daughter facial expression changed. She became uncomfortable, as the lighting flashed and the loud sounds of a tree being hit by lighting my daughter woke up looked at me and said, “Daddy I am scared,” then she held on to me tighter an went back to sleep. After she told me she was scared she acted like it never happened. That was the nature of prayer, give your issues away and act like it never happened.
I finally understood prayer and how the God wants us to view him. In my daughters mind I was God I was all seeing, knowing, and powerful. When her life became difficult she went to the one she knew could protect her. Once she made her request she left it alone. Her faith and hope was left in the hands of the one which she felt should deal with it. When she made her request for protection in her mind the issue was settled, she was going to be protected. Is that not the nature of prayer? Is it not making a request to God? Is it not leaving it in the hands of the one that sees, knows, and control all things?
Then I realized that we as adults don’t prayer like children. We think that it is our prayer that gets us the things that we want. That is the reason why we attempt to be so perfect in our prayers. Like we are trying to impress God a being that sees and knows all things. My daughter is four when she is the most eloquent that is when she is trying to manipulate me. She gets this little sparkle in her eyes and tilts her head and smiles. She put on a show for daddy. How a many of us try to put on a show for God? Even though he may grant us some of our prayers do you really think he is impressed with us? Prayers are a matter of the heart not words. Sometimes we may not know what to say, like a child our vocabulary is limited. So our prayers may be found in the word help. It can be displayed as our hands our lifted with tears strolling down our face. During the storms God knows. Like I knew that before my daughter arose I needed to be there for her.
I learned that prayer was not about being correct or long it was about a relationship that was built on faith and hope. It was about making a request to the one that control the universe. It was about making that request and letting it lay in the chest of the one who can handle it.
I have expressed that in the next 90 days or so I will be sharing with you about a movement. This is a movement that is based on people that is willing to share. These blogs are a part of this movement and I ask that you share them with everyone.
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This Time it is Different
This time last year I decided that I was going to take my workout to another level. As you can see my efforts to convey my message became distorted by my lack of discipline. It was not as if I did not attempt but the cares of life took me away from what I had planned to do. As a historical note 2008 was a hell of a year for me it was as if I had lost everything. I had suffered a major career scandal, lost love ones, and a failing relationships. It was as if my whole world was being turned inside out. It appeared that something was trying to destroy me every moment of my life. As I entered into 2009 I believed that this time of my life was going to be different. I really felt in my heart that this was going to be a rebuilding year. My life had destroyed and what was solid in my life was the only thing that remained. It reminded me of Matthew 7:24-27, Jesus says “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who build his house on the sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
It was as if anything that I did not build solid was gone as soon as the storm came. I was like Katrina Victims, I was considered a refugee in my own land. There was a blessing in the storm for me. I was allowed to see that which was solid was solid and that which is sand was sand. It was like an old archeological dig the wind caused me to discover me. I was able to see the me that had been covered for years. The dreams and the passion that I once had came back to life. I think I had no choice I had nothing left. I think when you are comfortable and you make a certain amount of money you forget purpose of why you where created. Bachelors degree, Graduate degrees, Specialist degree can sometimes be the biggest deception in a person life, it can sometimes rob you of innovation. It causes you to trust the system and we are all finding out the system is changing. The things becomes your God and you can no longer hear your destiny speaking.
This time it is going to be different. Purpose is knocking on my door and I have answered. In the next 90 days there will be some exciting things that I will be sharing with friends and family. I have a project that I am working on that I am really excited about. It aligns with my reason for being born. If you are reading this I am going to ask that you pray for me that this time of my life it would be different and as I share with you parts of my project that you join in the movement.
A few week ago through facebook, I was able to find a friend that I had not spoken to in years. Just like a archeological dig this friend was able to brush off more sand off of me. He reminded me that I had a grassroots nature. He has no clue that for months I have been pondering a grassroots movement.
So in the next 90 days some of the things you will see from me. I will be doing more life style changing to discipline myself to handle this new grassroots movement. This includes more exercise, better eating habits and more praying and mediation. I also will be spending more time connecting with people though blogging and online journals. I ask that as I share you share back because this movement will not be possible without the help of people. 
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Day 10 (Lack of Discipline Part II)
What is discipline?
To discipline thus means to instruct a person or animal to follow a particular code of conduct, or to adhere to a certain “order.” Consequently, “in the field of child development, discipline refers to methods of modeling character and of teaching self-control and acceptable behavior.”[
Self-discipline refers to the training that one gives one’s self to accomplish a certain task or to adopt a particular pattern of behavior, even though one would really rather be doing something else.
Self-discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation, when one uses reason to determine a best course of action that opposes one’s desires.
Those are not my words but the word defined by the Wikipedia, as it relates to discipline. What does that means to us? Personally me it means not eating a bag of Gummies when I should eat a salad. It my conscious decision to sleep when I should be working out. It is checking my MySpace page when I should be working on my next book. I have learned that every level of success requires another level of discipline or self sacrifice. What are you willing to sacrifice to get to your next level.
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Do You Live in the World Of I
In everything that you do do y
ou do you put the needs of others before your yourself? Can people see that you are a servant. Is your life consumed with living in the the of “I”(I want, I need, I have to have, I don’t feel like) Is your disposition and or attitude, the things that you do based on your needs. Do you put energy in
to serving others?
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Running To Become The New Me
I have decided as apart of my new training regime to add running into my new system of personal self development. In a article by shapefit.com the author state that running is the cheapest form of cardio. Why? You only need a pair of shoes. I think personally running is more of a challenge of me than any form of cardio other than swimming. It feel more of a total body workout. Running is not only physical but it is also mental. In high school I was a sprinter so I have always had a love for running. However running for distant is like competing in a war. You have to have a strategic plan, you have to have the ability to bypass your body naturally willingness to give up. I have only decided to run a minimum of 15-18 miles a week. Which is about 3 miles every day that I workout. It is a challenge 3 miles is a long time to think about why you as an individual are running and you have more than ample time to give up. I have been learning that there is a place that a runner mentally goes to compete in long distant races. My experiences has been that is mental place is the same place where individual success lives within the brain. To run miles you have to almost visualize and train your mind to believe you can complete you goal. That is a lot like life. That is the key to having goals and ambitions. In life you have to believe that you can achieve anything. Everyday I have to believe that I write best selling books, even though sales are slow. I have to mentally think that I am the social mogul of the 21st Century that I am the new breed of Social Businessmen. It is that mental ability that has begun to draw the entire universe to aid me into fulfilling that vision. When I started running today by the time I go to .5 miles I wanted to give up and go to the elliptical trainer. I kept saying to my self just one more minute. Then all of a sudden I hit the 1 mile mark. Then my body was in the groove until I ran another .25 miles. Then my thinking began to compromise. You already ran a mile. However I kept saying I need to get 3 miles, then all of a sudden my body began to drawn upon my inner strength and it was almost the wonders of the universe took over and the funniest thing that happened is that the last 1.5 miles was actually easier then the first mile I ran. Is that not a life lesson that starting something is harder than actually completing the journey? For more information about cardio exercise and running go to: http://running.about.com/od/mentalaspects/Mental_TrainingMotivation.htm http://www.shapefit.com/cardio-exercises.html
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The things You Learn Watching Saturday Kung-Fu
Today was interesting. I had a conversation with a dear friend about journey. I was a student and this brother became my teacher. I felt like I was in the old Kung-Fu theater movies, “Mater Teach Me the Ways of the Universe.” But what he spoke was like a pearl of truth. He said that this is your life Journey. This is a Journey that will forever change your life, enjoy the journey. Have fun in the moment. Regardless of the mistakes that you make, enjoy it because many people have refused to even start their personal journey. So I felt encourage, to continue my journey, but to also enjoy it because this season belongs to me. This is my journey. I have no clue as to what is at the end of this journey but I am confident that regardless of what is at the end is also the start of another journey. Or I just spent to much time as a little kid watching Kung-Fu.
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Independence Day
Independence Day serves as a reminder of the birthday of the United States of America and the signing of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. It serves as a reminder of a people liberating themselves from the captivity of a foreign government. As we celebrate this day I ask you when you will be able to celebrate you independence. When will the world be able to see your independence from poverty, bad relationships, and broken dreams? Many people thought that this boot camp was about me loosing weight. It is? It about me is loosing the weights of the world so that I can become independent. The issue is what you can declare yourself independent from. That is really what this boot camp is all about. It is about laying a foundation on the idea of fighting or self disciplining your self away from that thing, issue, circumstance, that has held you captive. So as you celebrate the independence of this wonderful country, I ask that you also began to develop a strategy to defeat the enemy that has held you personally captive.
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Get Busy Living
I have decided to move my blog from www.bloggingwithlove.com to www.livelifeantoniolove.com . I felt that as I spent my time expressing myself with you it really was not about blogging with me. It was about you the reader living your life with me. That as I live my life as Antonio Love you would have an opportunity to live that life with me. That is not to say that I will no longer use blogging with love, however livelifeantoniolove.com is the future site of the official Antonio Love blog.
